"Nice Guys"

So a friend of mine wrote about how some women have forgotten or ignored about the very few “nice guys” that are out there. However, I beg to differ on his claims.

Every girl sets their standards of what they want in a guy. Often times when girls are young, their standards are not as reasonable to standards set by mature older women. This is one of the many steps of trial and error in growing up and in relationships. All in the all TIMING IS EVERYTHING and maybe some people need to just speak up.

Almost every boy growing up has a girl best friend. This girl could be considered as one of the boys because she keeps that feminine taste with a rugged edge. So you fell for her and always tended to her needs, whether it was to keep her company while shopping to wiping her tears away when a guy took her for granted. You confided in her friends and the boys that you liked her but never dared to tell her because you were afraid of rejection, that the feelings weren’t mutual. So you kept your distance and tried as much as you could to keep things normal… even though you knew that she had a sense of how you felt about her.

She then found a guy that she had fallen head over heels for. He seemed to have everything that she could ever ask for, all that she deserved. Your heart ached a little because to see her happy with someone else instead of you stung. You probably could have offered more love then that guy could ever give her but she seemed happy. The relationship that the two love birds had eventually bloomed. The one on one time between you and her eventually diminished in the process.

So you reinvented yourself in order to win girls like her. You tried to be like that one boyfriend she had because you believed that it is what girls liked. You’ve grown up…You are earning yourself a living, you have your own place, switched up your style and have had your share of girls but yet you are living this lifestyle alone. You probably are hitting up the bars, drinking your problems away, and looking in all the wrong places trying to find a girl just like her but you just can’t seem to find someone even close.

The girl did not ignore you, you DECIDED to move on without her. She never took you for granted, she was just not aware of how you felt. Yeah, she saw the signs but then again maybe she was afraid of losing you. Maybe she felt that a risk like that would mean risking losing you if it didn’t work out. She took into consideration your countless efforts of devotion but maybe she wanted to see how far you would go to prove how much you cared for her. You were the one that gave up and never thought about keeping the friendship flame lit. Fact is maybe her being with another guy was an ultimate test for you to show how much you loved her.

So the guy that she had fallen hard for is no longer in the picture because what she thought she wanted was superficial. Maybe she realized that the good looks, deep pockets and sense of style of the former boyfriend just didn't satisfy her the way she thought that it could. Maybe it made her miss gestures of a true gentlmen that you have showed her. Maybe it was your company that made her realize how a girl needed to be treated but when she finally came back knocking on your doorstep to admit her mistake, your personal changes became something she did not want to be acquainted with. She did not want you to alter yourself in order to confrom to a mold that she once thought would be her match. All she wanted was just you, perfectly the way you are.

Things happen for reason. After all, she may still have those feelings for you deep down. She has to have a special place for her former best friend. Maybe you both needed time to grow up, experience lessons of life in order to appreciate the company and friendship that you folks once had.


Sincerly,

The girl that saw it all happen


p.s. "nice guys finish last but you'll be happy when you see who has been waiting for you at the finish line. "